It's safe to say that spontaneity is not a strong suit. When people who know me well call me to ask me to do just about anything, they've learned to preface it with "You don't have to decide right now." I usually say yes eventually, but I always need some time for it to sink in, even if it's something I really want to do.
I'd like to be a little better at this. The situation with my aunt is forcing me to undo my rigidity a bit. I try to schedule in my head when I'll go visit her, and how to make the trip as easy on my anxiety as possible. But then she may end up not feeling like visitors or she may have a last minute visit from a doctor at that time. I don't have any choice but to be flexible, and while I'm not great at it, I've noticed that even after just a few days, I feel less anxiety at not knowing exactly what's happening when.
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4 years ago
Cool that the exposure to being flexible is helping! When I met my husband, who is really not suited to planning anything, it was quite a shock to realize that not everyone researches things excessively and takes a long time deciding what to do. We've both changed, and moved toward the middle, and I am learning that being spontaneous can actually be enjoyable.
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