As a fairly anti-social woman who's getting older, I get asked out about once a year. Or lately I should say literally once a year. In 2010, that turned into a 6 month relationship. In 2011, the guy was creepy and there was no date. In 2012, well, not quite sure yet.
A coworker asked me out yesterday. He seems very nice. He's also quite a bit older than I am. Plus, there's the whole, boy do I hate first dates thing. But "you might be too old plus I'm bad at dates" didn't seem like a reasonable reason to say no. So I said yes.
But oh, how I hate first dates. And I don't know about how I feel about potentially sharing my OCD with someone at work. Because within about 10 minutes of him asking me out, at least 5 people at work already knew that he had (before I said a thing to anyone), so that's a bit disconcerting as well.
But just as with travel, I don't want to put it off for so long that it looms larger and LARGER out there.
I'll keep you posted.
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1 year ago
Ooooh, can't wait to hear how this goes! I hope it ends up being so much better than you anticipate. Good for you for forging ahead.
ReplyDeleteI hope it goes well, and I'll look forward to hearing more! :-) My husband is 15 1/2 years older than me, and we get along great.
ReplyDeleteAnticipation is almost always worse than the actual event, right? You might even have fun! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteYou have such a balanced approach towards dating it is so inspiring for me! The potential date for me has to be almost perfect before I will go out on a date. This is something I am working on - obviously OCD related for me - avoidance. Really, a first date is just a meeting. When put that way - it doesn't hold the same "heaviness"....at least not for me. Good for you for going despite what your mind is doing to talk you out of it/him!!!
ReplyDeleteLuckily, my fear of dating isn't OCD related, just "I'm super shy" related, so I don't have the extra weight of that. But I figure every time I make it through a first date, I'll have more examples of how I can make it through (and sometimes even have fun!) It's non-OCD ERP!
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